Hey 👋 Momz, It’s Fun Fact Time! So real quick, did you know that there are 4 primary parenting styles: Authoritative, Neglectful, Permissive, and Authoritarian? Each of these styles are based on the mindset of the parent- Recognizing what your parenting style is can provide a healthy way to manage conflict ……….So Momz, have any of you identified which parenting category you fall in? Drop yours below 👇🏼👇🏼👇🏼👇🏼👇🏼👇🏼👇🏼👇🏼👇🏼and let’s chat. For transparency, my parenting style is permissive and authoritative 🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗#funfacts4momz #roadmap2balance4momz #mommy #mothersmatter #mothers #momssupportingmoms https://www.goodtherapy.org/learn-about-therapy/issues/parenting
So I had this In depth conversation with my daughter about S.E.X. 🤷🏼♀️🤦🏼♀️. Let me set the scene. I’m sitting in my bedroom watching television 📺 and my daughter approached me about wanting to talk to me about some things regarding sex. So I said sure let’s just go for a ride since I needed to go to Target 🎯 anyways and I’m kind of panicking 🤷🏼♀️. Now before the sex discussion even begin my daughter basically came out and said that she is not sure how comfortable she is discussing her flaws with me 🙋🏻♀️. As her mom, I’m like hey I have flaws too (plenty of flaws)- my daughter is like well “I’m not aware of any of your flaws and what I want to talk to you about you might judge me”. I’m totally thinking 🤔 to myself like why would I judge 👩⚖️ anyone; I’m not judgemental. Now this is where things get deep: I immediately start sweating under my arm pits because now I’m praying under my breath and asking God to help me through this conversation. I begin to take a deep breath, I shared one of my flaws 🤷🏼♀️(my first sexual experience I got pregnant and had an abortion) and put myself in her shoes and we started an open discussion surrounding sex. We openly discussed that some of her friends were having sex 🤦🏼♀️. So I calmly asked her, “Baby are you having sex and do you want to have sex?” She responded, “Mom, I am not ready to have sex because I want to focus on my education and get myself established first”. Here is where I started breathing 😬. So I’m thinking she wanted to tell me that she had sex but she really just wanted to have a discussion about sex and to know how her Mom felt about it 🙋🏻♀️🤗. In the back of my mind I was like thank you Jesus. In the moment I responded, “When you are ready please let me know so that I can get you some condoms”. I asked my daughter about STD’s and told her that if she chooses to have sex, she will risk getting infected with a sexually transmitted disease and informed her that some of the STD’s are not curable-her mouth is wide open now 😬. We also discussed the importance of waiting until Marriage to have sex (biblical principles- I Corinthians 6:18-20). I shared with my daughter that I did not wait until Marriage to have sex and I ended getting pregnant a second time 🤰while in a relationship and becoming a single parent. I also discussed with my daughter some of the struggles (delayed college entry and sport scholarship cancelled)I experienced being a young single mom and how my choices delayed my purpose in life. My daughter stated, “Mom I’m sorry you went through those things.” I told my daughter when you are not aligned with God’s plan and try to make your own decisions, God allows obstacles to occur in your life to remind us that we need to seek him first. I’m just thankful that my daughter still has her V card 🙋🏻♀️. Okay so back to the topic 🤷🏼♀️, having the sex talk with your teens can sometimes be challenging and I try to be more conscious of that. I found this article that I want to share with Momz who may also need some assistance with having the sex talk:
Here are some helpful tips from the article:
You can support them in waiting even more by helping them think through how they’ll say no to sex in the moment. Ask them what they think someone might say to convince them they should have sex. They can practice what they’ll say back. They might come up with things like:
“It’s just not for me.”
“We are too young for that responsibility.”
“My plans for the future are more important than having sex right now.”
“I don’t feel like it.”
“Why are you trying so hard when I told you, ‘no’?”
“My mom would be really upset.”
“I might get sick or pregnant.”
“It’s against my religion.”
As a reminder Momz, Don’t be afraid to have this talk, it’s the best thing that I could have done ✅- Now I do it all the time 🤷🏼♀️. My kids are like Mom, again really 🙋🏻♀️🤷🏼♀️🤦🏼♀️! Yep 👍
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Hey👋 Momz, you ever been in a place where you have felt inadequate at times 🙋🏻♀️? Sometimes Mommying can feel quite chaotic and challenging. We are often faced with obstacles to challenge our innovative way of thinking 🤔. Let me share my story: My 15 year old son being diagnosed with Chrohns Disease early 2018 really challenged my innovative way of thinking 🤔 as well as played with my mental in regards to my adequacy as a Mom through what I thought to be a chaotic situation. Since 2011, my son had been dealing with intense stomach/intestinal pain. When I say pain I mean vomiting 🤮 throughout the night, fevers 🤒, sleeping by the toilet 🚽, many trips to the emergency room, unexplainable weight loss, and much more. My son had seen numerous doctors 🥼 and specialists but the doctors could not pin point what the issue was. As a parent, this really affected me because I felt helpless because I could not help my son or relieve him of the pain. My son and I would often talk and he would ask the question, “Mom, Am I going to gain weight?”. Deep down I really didn’t have an answer, but because of my prayer and faith, I would always tell my son that he is definitely going to gain weight. Although, I had my faith, deep down I was fearful because at that particular time my son was loosing weight and the doctors 🥼 could not seem to find answers through tests and blood work. This stomach pain and tests from the doctors 🥼 went on from 2011 to 2018 when my son finally received a diagnosis. But I didn’t realize that God had already mental prepared me for what I thought was chaos because when the doctor 🥼 gave the diagnosis my faith just automatically increased- I know it may seem weird but it’s true 🙋🏻♀️🤷🏼♀️. Even when I shared this information with my extended family about the diagnosis, some of my family members were getting upset and crying 😢; and I was like “Why are y’all crying, where is your faith?”. I wanted to share this story as way to help a Mom who may be feeling inadequate. Just know that you are adequate enough and graced enough at all times to handle any obstacle that is placed in front of you. With your innovative way of thinking, Momz can overcome with grace. Here is a link with more information for Momz to learn more about Chrohns Disease to help your little ones who may be going through the same thing 🤗: https://www.crohnscolitisfoundation.org/what-is-crohns-disease. Momz are Rockstars🌟🌟🌟! #positiveaffirmations #momsneedmoms #mom #mother #godfirst #crohnsdisease #momsrock #momlife #momtruth #momprobs #mommy #mothers #mothersmatter #fridayaffirmation #empoweringwomen #empoweringmoms #empoweringmothers #womenempowerment #womenempoweringwomen #grace
Hey Momz, Have you ever been in a place where your self confidence was feeling defeated🙋🏻♀️? This was once me 🙋🏻♀️. Let me share my story: In 2017 I was in a car accident which cause some permanent short term memory loss and in the midst of that I lost some self confidence because I was not for sure of many things due to the fact that I was experiencing some memory issues. Now as a Mom, this affected my entire life because my memory played a role in my relationship with my husband and children (appointments, dates, events, and etc). During this time, I attended therapy for my memory to help build and regain that muscle; however, through it all I still remained less confident. I was less confident in the fact that when I would have conversations with my husband and children that I would forget what we discussed and I felt so horrible about it but I could not help it. I was less confident in the fact that I would schedule appointments for myself, my husband, or my children and totally miss the appointment because I could not remember. Even talking to my extended family, we would have a conversation and they would be like “we already talked about that” and to me it felt like the first conversation we ever had about that particular topic, weighed on my self confidence. Then I begin to go into prayer with God and ask for memory restoration and tools to help me as a Mom to regain my self confidence and over time, God did just that 🌟. Through dreams God gave me resources: he literally told me to go buy this huge dry erase board and write things down and so I did 🤷🏼♀️. To this day, I still write things down; I have my to do lists and I have an ongoing list on my phone 📱 . I have this scripture Jeremiah 29:11 that I memorized “For I know the plans I have for you, says the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future” to also help regain my self confidence as a Mom.
Now because I was experiencing low self confidence, this affected my ability to do public speaking because I was afraid that I would forget the words. Now this fear of public speaking consumed me for about a year and some months. About a few weeks ago, I begin seeking my faith in fear. Although, I had heard many times from my Pastor and my husband that fear is the enemy, I never had my ah ha moment until I begin to dig deeper into my faith did my fear begin to disappear. I learned that the book of Psalms (56:3) is a great instruction on helping me to cast out my fear with faith. On Friday, June 21, 2019 I did my first short video on my Instagram which was about 7 seconds long. Although I was extremely nervous 😬, those few seconds gave me a boost of confidence to move me into the direction of my purpose. I wrote this because there may be some Moms who may be experiencing some self confidence and may need a boost 🤗🌟🌟. To all the Moms that are thriving through low self confidence, I would encourage you to take some time to do some self reflecting and to work on you because you have a Divine purpose 🤗🥰. #momsrock #moms #mothers #empoweringmoms #selfconfidence
Hey Momz, So as a blogger if I am going be authentic, I have to be willing to share the bad too. So here goes nothing: So yesterday during the day I spoke to husband regarding having to take our 14 year old to get her nails done and get additional accessories for her 8th grade prom after I get off work. My husband ended up spending his day of work golfing as a work day which I totally support. His golf day ended early and he called me to inform me that he was picking the (3👨👧👧) kids up from school. I was like, “that’s great”! My husband ended up dropping our 14 year old daughter by my job so that we could go right after work to complete the items we needed to get done for her 8th grade prom.
Now mind you, I am assuming that since my 14 year old daughter and I was not going to get home until about 8:00ish that the other 3 👨👧👧 kids at the house with my husband would have completed the following: homework, showers, ironed uniforms, and etc.
So my 14 year old daughter and I get home around 8:00ish. I walk in the house all happy go lucky, walk upstairs, and ask my husband the following: “Hey babe, did the kids complete their homework?” He responded, “I did not know they had homework.” I immediately grabbed my laptop, went downstairs to office, locked the door and had a complete crying meltdown. See, I had worked a 9hr day, had taken my 14yr old daughter to get items for her 8th grade prom, and still had to come home and help my kids 👨👨👧👧 with homework, do laundry 🧺, work on ministry paperwork, work on my blog stuff, make sure the kids get bathes, all while trying to make some me time. I think I cried literally like a baby (balling my eyes out) for about 45minutes before I got myself together. I was feeling all types of disrespect, unheard, unloved, just all types of thinking errors. Did you hear me thinking errors!
So once I consoled myself and began to think logically, I quickly realized that I never communicated to my husband or my children what I needed from them… I shared this story because I know sometimes as Momz we expect our family to know what we are thinking 🤔. And clearly I did not do a good job of that. It’s important that we communicate clearly our wants and needs and for the recipient to understand what those wants and needs are in order for effective communication to be met.
To all the Momz that may have had some meltdown moments as I have, it’s okay 👌. It’s life and you will get through it. On to the next thing 🤦🏼♀️🤗🧐
Hey Momz, I know sometimes we experience and go through self doubt. I just want to encourage a Mom that you all are destined for greatness. I wanted to share this transparent story of self doubt that I experienced recently: So my youngest son has been singing 🎤 since he was 3 years old and his birthday was yesterday and he turned 8. My son is an aspiring singer 🎶 so as a Mom you know I’m going to invest in his talent cause that’s what us Momz do. So I had been praying about the next step to help my son with his singing 🎤 regarding getting my son in the studio, but was experiencing some SELF DOUBT regarding the studio and singing because I was being impatient. So on yesterday my son had a singing engagement. During the event, this lady out of nowhere approached me and stated the following “I believe in your son and he is going to be an amazing singer and I want to financially invest in him”. Now I don’t know this lady but my SELF DOUBT immediately diminished because that was confirmation of my prayers. As Momz, when our kids tell us they want to be something in life, we work hard to try to make that happen for our kids and when things don’t happen the way we want them to Self Doubt can set it. Momz I want you to hear me, God will place people in your life to AFFIRM you and to diminish your SELF DOUBT. We are graced to guide and prepare our children for their purpose. Momz you are all Rockstars and are destined for Greatness! 🌟🌟🌟🤗#youareenough #womenempowerment #momsrock #balance #momsareawesome #mom #moms #momstyle #selfdoubt #encouragement #faith #mindsetofgreatness #achievegreatness
Hey Momz, so I have to tell you this story. So I took my 9 year old daughter to the doctor 👩⚕️ for her annual routine check and the doctor basically informed me that my daughter is borderline diabetic. The doctors basically told me that my baby girl was in the obese category for her age, height, and weight. Immediately I begin to panic because I had seen some of the struggles that my extended family members had experienced being diabetic. I always pray; as that is a daily occurrence for me, but I begin to research and do some spring cleaning and looked into healthier food choices for my household as a whole. Although I am not the one who prepares the meals (my husband does that), we both recognized that we had to make some changes for my daughter’s life. While looking into healthier food choices, purchasing healthier foods and snacks, and praying, I decided to get my daughter a Fitbit. Now I already have a Fitbit; So after the Fitbit came in the mail, I sat down with my daughter and explained to her that we are going to have this competition using the Fitbits to see who can get the most steps and workouts each day. She was so excited and happy to be physically active. Now for those of you that don’t know my daughter, she normally does not like anything active and she is aware that she is a little heavier than her classmates. My husband and I also spend more time affirming my baby self esteem. So back to the story, I’m really excited because she is excited 😊; we sat down together and set up her Fitbit and created her an account so that she can log her items and I can send her supportive badges through the Fitbit program. My daughter has since beat me in steps everyday for this whole week and has been actively using her Fitbit to workout 🏋️♀️. I’m so proud of her that at 9 years old she decided to take her health into her own hands with the push of her mommy’s support. I shared this story because as Momz, sometimes we have to be creative in how we support and encourage our children. I’m not perfect but through my faith and prayers God has given me creativity in how to be and support my daughter as a Mom. I want to encourage all Momz to think 🤔 creatively whenever you are trying to support your kiddos 👶 in a way that can affect their lives for the rest of their lives. Momz you are all Rockstarz 🌟🌟