Hey Momz, So as a blogger if I am going be authentic, I have to be willing to share the bad too. So here goes nothing: So yesterday during the day I spoke to husband regarding having to take our 14 year old to get her nails done and get additional accessories for her 8th grade prom after I get off work. My husband ended up spending his day of work golfing as a work day which I totally support. His golf day ended early and he called me to inform me that he was picking the (3👨👧👧) kids up from school. I was like, “that’s great”! My husband ended up dropping our 14 year old daughter by my job so that we could go right after work to complete the items we needed to get done for her 8th grade prom.
Now mind you, I am assuming that since my 14 year old daughter and I was not going to get home until about 8:00ish that the other 3 👨👧👧 kids at the house with my husband would have completed the following: homework, showers, ironed uniforms, and etc.
So my 14 year old daughter and I get home around 8:00ish. I walk in the house all happy go lucky, walk upstairs, and ask my husband the following: “Hey babe, did the kids complete their homework?” He responded, “I did not know they had homework.” I immediately grabbed my laptop, went downstairs to office, locked the door and had a complete crying meltdown. See, I had worked a 9hr day, had taken my 14yr old daughter to get items for her 8th grade prom, and still had to come home and help my kids 👨👨👧👧 with homework, do laundry 🧺, work on ministry paperwork, work on my blog stuff, make sure the kids get bathes, all while trying to make some me time. I think I cried literally like a baby (balling my eyes out) for about 45minutes before I got myself together. I was feeling all types of disrespect, unheard, unloved, just all types of thinking errors. Did you hear me thinking errors!
So once I consoled myself and began to think logically, I quickly realized that I never communicated to my husband or my children what I needed from them… I shared this story because I know sometimes as Momz we expect our family to know what we are thinking 🤔. And clearly I did not do a good job of that. It’s important that we communicate clearly our wants and needs and for the recipient to understand what those wants and needs are in order for effective communication to be met.
To all the Momz that may have had some meltdown moments as I have, it’s okay 👌. It’s life and you will get through it. On to the next thing 🤦🏼♀️🤗🧐